Just Another Loophole
“I quit for my (mother) (husband) (kids).”
We can’t quit for others
because others will disappoint us and
Slick will say, “After all we gave up for them? I think I just saw our
connection going into Walmart…”
But, that doesn’t mean that others shouldn’t be part of our
consideration when deciding to quit using. It is just in the attitude behind how
we phrase it. "I quit because a good (daughter) (wife) (mother) doesn't
neglect important people to focus on using a drug.”
Mom can forget our birthday, our spouse can forget it was their turn to
do the dishes, our kids can forget to clean their room, but…you are still a
good (daughter) (wife) (mother) who doesn’t neglect important people to focus
on using a drug.
Don’t forget where you came from and where you want your life to go in a
momentary spike of anger (Slick’s BFF). Even if their behavior was more
egregious, you can be sure that there were other reasons besides your
relationships behind your decision to quit. Reasons like your health, freedom,
career, money and reasons that haven’t even appeared on your radar screen yet
(see Hockey Stick posts).
You might think “this recovery bit isn’t working,” but remember, when
you were using, you wanted to quit, so using isn’t the answer. Maybe you need a
new job/spouse or whatever, but returning to what you are trying to escape isn’t
the answer.
“Nice try, Slick! But that choking sensation you feel is Just Another Loophole.
Tightening around your slimy little neck!"
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